94th Trimester, Eleanor Davis
you can be intelligent and successful
you can be sexually active and promiscuous
also…. you can be both
Love this
Yes! I was saddened and confused recently when I saw women using the phrase “blow kisses not dicks” There.is.nothing.wrong.with.sucking.dick.if.that’s.what.you.want.to.do
This is Not an Overreaction
Sometimes, men can be arseholes. Men are cushioned by a number of unearned privileges and this occasionally leads them to believe that they have a supreme amount of entitlements. Amidst these entitlements, some men expect women to cater to their wants, needs and desires, regardless of their own behaviour. And God forbid when a woman refuses to align herself within this patriarchal way of thinking. When a woman chooses not to play along, some men will complain about how this woman is being difficult. Please fuck off with that attitude. How about if men checked their own shitty behaviour towards women instead of moaning about how they didn’t get the ideal response they felt they deserved? A woman isn’t asking to be groped if she flirts with you. A woman isn’t being a bitch when she doesn’t want to date you. A woman isn’t overreacting when she calls your inappropriate behaviour aggressive. Your intentions are irrelevant if it creates a negative impact. To expect a woman to lower her voice, soften her words and stroke your ego in order to ease your hurt feelings, when it is you who is putting them in an uncomfortable and unsolicited situation, is overwhelmingly arrogant and misguided. Apologising is a helpful step to get things back on track with the woman you offended, but your apology would be appreciated even more if you figured all of this out on your own instead of needing women to spell it out for you.
There is nothing shameful about needing help to function. Whether it’s help in the form of medication, therapy, support groups, mental health hotlines, or the inbox of a friend— it’s okay to need a crutch to lean on. It doesn’t make you any less capable or competent. It doesn’t make you weak. And it doesn’t make you a failure. It makes you human. It’s makes you a person who is wounded and searching for a way to heal. It makes you someone with the courage to acknowledge that they have needs and the strength to get those needs met. And although it may be true that not everyone needs these things to cope, it’s a lie to think that everyone else can function without support. No one gets through life without some form of help. No one is impervious to the struggle and strain and heartbreak that come with taking up space. We all have a difficult time coping, and at some point, we all need help. You are not an exception. You’re important and you matter. Your life matters. And if asking for help is going to make things more manageable, if it’s going to ease your pain and help you fight the darkness you carry, then you have every right and reason get support. Always.
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| — | Daniell Koepke (via internal-acceptance-movement) |
Suppose a man makes unwanted social advances to a woman in, let’s say, a restaurant or theatre, and she eventually has to tell him loudly or angrily to get lost. She is the one who will be perceived as rude, hostile, aggressive, and obnoxious. His verbal aggression and invasiveness are accepted and expected; her rudeness (or mere curtness) in getting rid of him is noticed and condemned. One of our great myths is that a “real lady” can and should handle any difficulty, defuse any assault, without ever raising her voice or losing her manners. Female rudeness or violence in resistance to male aggression has often been taken to prove that the woman was not a lady in the first place, and therefore deserved no respect from the aggressor or sympathy from others.
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D.A. Clarke, “A Woman With a Sword” (via wretchedoftheearth) ughh I was with a guy I knew in public and he was being really nasty to me because I rejected him, he was muttering all kinds of shit to me and I started crying - a lot. Then I heard people near us say “she must be drunk”… Yep, I must be the problem. The crying woman. No way can the asshole man muttering to me be in the wrong yeah? ¬_¬ |
